In this article we will try to explain you How to avoid anger in Islam wit some powerful tips.
A man came to the Prophet (may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and asked him (Peace and blessings be upon him) for advice. He (Peace and blessings be upon him) said:-
“Do not become angry.” The man repeated his request for advice, and each time, the Prophet replied with this one phrase that sums up all good attitudes and behavior: “Do not become angry.” (Bukhari)
While you may not be able to avoid people’s anger and aggressive attitudes, you can surely deal with such situations in a wise and productive manner.
Anger can be like a fire. And you can’t possibly combat fire by another spark of fire, or pouring fuel onto it – this would result in a massive fire that would swallow everybody, including yourself. Whereas pouring water onto fire will curb it, if not end it entirely. Having a calm, tolerant temper can combat anger like water extinguishes fire.
Reacting calmly and tolerantly to an angry situation might first seem passive – but who cares! If you want to just add fuel to the fire, the situation will probably spiral out of control and end up in a fight of unpredictable magnitude.
I agree that being a calm, tolerant person does require a lot of self-discipline, which is normally “difficult”.
Here Are Some Time-Tested Tips For Averting Anger:
1. You Have To Understand That Anger Is Not A Matter Of Power Or Ability.
- “The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but it is the one who can control himself when he is angry.” (Bukhari)
- If you get angry, move away from the source of anger, and sit down. If you still feel angry, lie down. Try to think of positive thoughts, instead of dwelling on thoughts that make you angry. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, and try to get peace of mind. If you’re standing, you may, again, out of anger, do something you regret, such as hitting someone.
- The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down.
- If the anger still does not go away, make wudu.
2. Regard Anger As An Infection
- Keep due distance from those ill-tempered people, regardless of the extent of their anger and the reason behind it. Don’t react in a manner that will signal hatred. Doing so will probably just exacerbate the anger and exasperate the situation.
- If someone says something offensive to you, don’t retaliate and say something mean back. If you’re having an argument, be the better person, realize that nothing good comes out of petty arguments, and keep silent. When one is angry, they often lose self-control, and may utter words they later regret.
- The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.”
3. Feel Free To Delay Your Reaction
- It won’t bruise your dignity nor tarnish your image. You can end your presence in this situation. Whether physically or if it’s a phone conversation, or a virtual presence with chatting, and react later when you’re mentally ready to deal positively with the situation.
- When one is angry, they often lose self-control, and may utter words they later regret.
4. Keep The Interest Of The Muslim Community In Mind
- ”Do not be angry with each other and do not envy each other and do not turn away from each other, and be slaves of Allah, brothers. It is not halal for a Muslim to shun his brother for more than three nights.” (Imam Malik’s Muwatta)
- Try to be in the friend circle of good people which can help you to learn Islam which may result as the increase in imaan and also low in Anger.
5. React With A Calming Statement
- For example, “I understand how you feel, I know you must be angry, etc. Try and avert the angered person from thoughts that continue to anger them.
6. A Few Kind Words Can Have A Surprising Effect
- Reverting the whole situation into a pleasant tone will help lessen tensions. On the other hand, harsh words trigger retaliation. Watch your words because they can set the tone for an entire situation.
7. Don’t Become That Person
- If you hate the attitude of the person who’s angry, know that reacting in a harsh manner will render you pretty much similar to him/her, so you’d better be careful.
- Be strong and make your calm manner contain the situation. Be wise. Self-control is cornerstone to curbing people’s anger.
- Remember that our beloved Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) never took revenge over a personal matter.
- It is narrated that “The Prophet never took revenge for his own sake, but if the laws of Allah were violated, he would take revenge for the sake of Allah.”
- Remain wise and apply the virtue of patience, which is your key tool to avert aggressive and anger attitudes.
- Remember, the relationships and attitudes you cultivate within your life will impact your productivity.
- So remain positive and avoid negativity!
Anger will lead to divisions within the Muslim community, so avoid anger, especially with regards to differences in opinion. Don’t let these minute differences break apart the Muslim community. Imam Ahmad said, “Do not be angry with each other and do not envy each other and do not turn away from each other, and be slaves of Allah, brothers. It is not halal for a Muslim to shun his brother for more than three nights.